According to author Natalie Rivera, we all have a tendency towards a similar kind of psychological pain for similar reasons. And at the centre of our suffering are 3 core irrational beliefs. APPROVAL – In order to be worthy, my approval must come from others. JUDGEMENT – Other people must live up to my expectations in order to be worthy. COMFORT– Life is required to be easy, comfortable, and convenient.These beliefs are responsible for the blame game, for entitlement and for the use of approval-seeking behaviour. They are TOTALLY BOGUS internal RULES that dictate how we, others, and the world must behave. This is a situation where it is SO GOOD to discover that you have been WRONG about something. We can release emotional stress and suffering by removing these redundant beliefs.